Friends Couple Enrichment invites you to a weekend to explore with your beloved, and with other couples, our patterns of decision-making. In a spirit of experiment and curiosity, we will explore how decision-making can affirm our strengths as couples, how conflict around decisions is an opportunity to deepen intimacy, and how we can uphold integrity, equality, and peace-making as couples as we search for answers.
We'll explore how each decision has its own context: Is this urgent? Who will it affect? What information do I have or need? How does this decision reflect my values? We will also examine how different styles of decision-making influence our discernment as a couple: Do I trust my gut or my head? Do I decide quickly or vacillate? Do I lean on others to help me decide?
At the heart of the retreat will be learning and experimenting with the spiritual practice of Couple Dialogue. This is a form of deep listening and speaking that encourages and guides couples to be more curious about each other, to go deeper into their relationship.
Couple dialogue can help us navigate frequent decisions (who's picking up the kids from school?), financial plans (how much car can we afford?), or philosophical questions (what does hospitality look like for us?). By slowing down and having a structure for listening to each other, you and your partner can focus on uncovering what you are both yearning for. In this way, discerning together becomes a path for more intimacy.
Bring with you at least one question that you and your beloved are currently sitting with -- be it profound or mundane -- so that we can learn together and, God willing, experience where Spirit takes us. If you don't know what decisions to start with, we'll offer some exercises to get you talking!
This is a residential retreat, with room and board provided from Friday dinner to Sunday lunch. Come retreat from the busy world and spend two days focusing on that most precious jewel -- your relationship.
Friends Couple Enrichment (FCE), founded by Quakers over 50 years ago, is a proactive ministry to release the full potential of relationships both for the benefit of the couple and also for a world begging for examples of honest, loving, joy-filled relationships. This ministry is open to all couples, regardless of length of time together, marital status, gender identity, age, race, or faith. Indeed, our retreats are enhanced by our diversity. At the heart of any FCE event is an introduction to Witnessed Couple Dialogue, a spiritual practice of deep listening. This retreat will include lots of time for couples to dialogue in the loving witness of others as well as in private. Be assured that you will not be asked to share or participate in activities beyond your level of comfort.